There is a large amount of statistics written about what attracts men to women and vice versa. This article is concerned with how men can go about writing an online dating profile that will make themselves attractive to a woman browsing down a site page. With the growth of online dating sites mainly brought about by the new “computer generation,” it often amazes me that the majority of people when participating in searching for a partner online, have absolutely no idea about how to go about it. The fact is, that the approach is very different for a man as opposed to a woman, and here is why.

When a man is looking for a serious relationship, statistics show that your average male will initially go for good looks and a good body. Statistically speaking this is true in at least 80% of adult males right across the spectrum including social, age and nationality groups. Women on the other hand don’t go for looks, but they consider intelligence and emotional stability as main priorities while close behind, they want a gentleman, good potential father and faithful companion. If you can understand this basic difference, then you can aim your profile using this information.

Too many men assume that what they want is exactly the same for women. Wrong! If you think this, then you are never going to attract a serious potential date. Think of yourself as a fisherman of women. If you are putting bait on your line using a masculine mentality it’s like putting cheese on the end of your hook. What you need is the correct bait, and here it is.

Your dating profile should be calm, self-confident, not too heavy with an undertone of humour, and above all not aggressive, boastful or arrogant. Your profile should be baited in the correct way to attract a woman who is in “browsing” mood. If it is all the above things, then she will stop and check you out. Here are two examples.

Good looking male, loves hot chicks. Enjoys fast living and fast women. Are you hot enough for me?

This profile is light-hearted, but if the person writing it thinks he is going to attract a female he is grossly mistaken. He is joking in a masculine way and has no idea about feminine mentality.

What about this one. Warm hearted, intelligent, friendly guy looking for someone to pamper…

What a great start to a profile; this man is giving a woman what she wants to hear, and boy is he going to get some hits. What he does with those hits when he receives them is another technique and another part of the equation of attracting females. Look out for parts 3 and 4.

Do you want to find your perfect match on the internet? If so, you are not alone. There are hundreds of thousands of other people out there doing the same thing as you are. It can be easy to get overwhelmed with all the different dating sites and people out there, so here are a few guidelines to help you get started on the right foot.

1) Create a picture of your ideal partner in your mind’s eye.

You’ve done the first step. You have put together a great dating profile.. Now what? You need to know what you are looking for in a person. What’s your ideal partner like? If you have to, write it down. So many candidates out there, you need to be specific of the qualities you are looking for. Physical attributes play a huge impact, but don’t forget that personality is just as important.

One important thing is to not get too hung up on meeting someone who ticks every single one of your boxes. Use your idea of a perfect partner as a guide only. The last thing you want to do is miss that special someone that is right for you.

2) Be specific.

If you want to find people who have similar interests and values to you, make sure that you fill in your profile properly and state exactly what you are looking for. Write down your expectations. Don’t play around if you want a serious relationship.

3) Be yourself.

True, talking with strangers may be a bit awkward. The advantage with cyberspace is that you can pretend to be confident even if you’re not. No one has to know you’re shaking inside. This is especially true if you are newbie in online dating. If someone contacts you and the conversation is fun and natural, this is a good sign. Don’t expect to be in a relationship with the first person that contacts you. There are so many prospects out there. You need to screen them out until you find your perfect match. Don’t be too serious. This experience is supposed to be fun.

4) Be fun yet cautious.

Try to have fun when your are internet dating. Be sure to take care. Be fun yet safe at the same time. Should you decide to meet in person, do so in a public place to ensure safety. This is particularly true for women.

There is someone out there destined for you. When the time is right, you will meet this person. But, it doesn’t hurt if you give destiny a little shove. Internet dating websites may be just what you need to find your perfect match. True, you will encounter a few disappointments here and there. Remember that when you finally meet that perfect person for you it will be worth all the effort.

So many times I meet with women who are disappointed in their relationships. They state that things didn’t turn out the way that they had expected.

Here’s my advice to all confused young women who would like to find a good man for a romantic relationship:

1. Define “good” – It is very important that you know exactly what qualities you would like to live with on a long-term basis. Would you rather have someone who wines and dines you with his last dime or someone who will pay the bills by their due date? When you talk about “good” are you referring to his dancing, appearance or vehicle? Perhaps you would be better to think about whether he has a kind heart, good work ethic and ability to commit to you for life.

2. Don’t expect a daily honeymoon - “Chick flicks” end after ninety minutes. Magazines offer only the best that their creators can conjure up. And men usually don’t invest much of their time watching or reading either of these. Even Confuses say “After the enlightenment comes the laundry”. If you are expecting everything to be joy and roses every day, you will be sadly disappointed rather quickly.

3. Men (and women) usually don’t change unless life doesn’t work for them - Those things that you think are rather cute right now might end up being quite annoying in the future. If your love interest plays sports three days a week now, it is unlikely that he will want to give that up so that he can be with you all the time. I remember when my uncle, a Queen’s Bench judge, said “No man ever changed his behaviours because of his love for a woman”.

4. “Bad boys” do not make good husband material – Many women think that the bad boys are the most attractive and not as boring as the responsible men. Then, once they begin living together, the woman attempts to tame the tiger. Good luck with that! If you are going to be wife number three – take warning! There might be a number four right around the corner! Whether you like it or not, alcoholics and addicts will continue to love their drug of choice more than you – unless they successfully complete their rehab program. Oh, and don’t think that you can get them to rehab. They have to make that decision themselves. Also make sure that you don’t believe that their criminal record was a set up that trapped them. Past behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour!

5. Where you meet someone can be a good indicator of their problem areas - So many times I have heard clients complain about their partners. “She’s a drinker” they say and when I ask “Where did you meet her?” they reply “In a bar”. “He is crazy” a woman will tell me and when asked “Where did you meet him?” they state “In a psychiatric ward”. “He cheats on me” a client will report and when asked “How did you meet?” I am sometimes told “He was my best friend’s husband”. Before you get defensive let me clarify that there are interesting people in bars, and healthy people who have completed treatment and even committed people who have had difficult relationships in the past. Just note, however, that if you are feeling those little “nigglies” in your stomach, you should trust your own intuition, because they are good warning signals.

Everyone wants to have a happy and romantic relationship with another person but you have to be realistic. After the wedding comes the marriage. After the sex comes the stretch marks. And after divorce comes hurt – for you and for the children that you have made.

Choose wisely – and take your time. Fifteen minutes to common-law is not a good choice.

I recommend that couples not live together or marry until they have dated all four seasons. That gives plenty of time to find out how you will handle Christmas and baseball season and traditions that both families honour.

If you are looking for a “good” man make sure that you do a “good” search and then make a “good” decision before you begin telling the world (and yourself) that you have found your prince!