I don’t believe that partners were made in heaven, but I do believe that there is a right partner for us out there, and that most people don’t have a clue how to go about finding him or her. If we have a look at statistics, we can find out a lot about where to look for that special someone. It is a total fallacy that most long relationships begin in the disco or down the pub. Chance meetings rarely go the distance and for a very logical reason. It is Chance, and believe me if you play by those rules you are always destined to fail. So how do most happy couples meet?
Well, up until a few years ago the best way to meet your partner was through work, a social type club like a tennis or golf club, or through friends. So why do you think these type of relationships have more of a chance of success? This is mainly because people are limiting their risk factors by choosing someone who they know, or letting friends Match-make, as a mutual friend knows the personality traits of both parties, and can make a substantial guess if they should or shouldn’t get on. That’s how I met my wife; through friends, and I had been looking for Mrs right for a long time without success.
But now there is a better way, and that is through an online dating agency, but you need to go about meeting people online in a way were you can evaluate a member’s personality before meeting them. Online there are lots of potential dates, and many of them will be suitable for you, especially if you are not naive enough to realise that in any relationship the perfect match doesn’t exist, and both parties have to compromise to make it work. So how do you get to know if someone is suitable?
The most important part of the process is your own profile. You should set up an honest profile of yourself giving some of you main characteristics, likes and dislikes, but in a friendly up-beat manner. You must write down before committing to the net, what you are looking for in a partner, and try to be realistic and not superficial. Whilst physical attraction is important, there are also many other character traits that will either attract or repel you. Go into what attracts you and put it into your profile.
When you are contacted by another member, ask a lot of questions about them, as it will give you lots of information but will also keep the other member interested in keeping in contact, as everybody likes to answer questions about themselves.
Finally, take it slowly and don’t be rushed into a meeting as the more time you spend either emailing each other or chatting, you will be building a bond, or getting bored with each other. The good thing about online dating is that there are many more fish in the sea, so if it is not working, let the other person know, politely, and move on to someone else.
It may not be the quickest way of meeting someone, but it is more efficient than dancing round you handbag, or propping up the bar. Try it and see for yourself.
